Big yourself up when you’re talking to your friends and / or colleagues, so people take notice of you. Someone’s got to believe in you – so it might as well be you who starts the positive good vibes flowing about you.
People who brag a lot often do so to boost their self-esteem / self-confidence. This behavior can stem from insecurity, a desire for attention, or a need to assert their social status. While some may view bragging as confidence, it can be off-putting to others and may lead to strained relationships.
To stop yourself seeming as if you’ve got a big ego – flatter someone else before you say a positive thing about yourself i.e. something you can do very well.
For someone with a superiority complex, bragging could be a reflection of their unrealistically positive view of themselves. Bragging can also be caused by an inferiority complex, who might use bragging as a defence mechanism to hide their flaws or insecurities from others.
Sure, it can sometimes be rather annoying when someone goes on about how great they are and how well they’re doing in their life e.g. how many expensive things they own now. But, please try to remember that a lot of people have low self-esteem or might be very lonely in their life e.g. they might live alone – so them bragging about themselves might be something they have been told to do by a councillor – perhaps they see a councillor to help them gain some confidence.
In our social and professional interactions, we commonly focus on managing the impressions that others form of us. Hard work and rather emotionally exhausting hey! This is like this especially when others do not know us well. They might not know that we can be great company because one is a chilled out, good laugh kind of person.
Now we all know that making a positive first impression to others can lead to great things, such as: a fantastic job opportunity, meeting the one – the one’s soul mate.
While we are naturally nervous about revealing our weaknesses or outright bragging about our strengths, doing so often is more effective than saying things that could make us seem inauthentic or insincere. A case in point is “humblebragging,” a particular type of self-promotion that, thanks to social media, has become ubiquitous.
If in doubt, just try the basics – try not to put yourself down to others, because you don’t want to draw their attention to something about you, they might not have noticed about you.
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